Memory Erase

Erasing a memory can be more difficult than creating a new one.

Unlike a computer where you can press the delete button and the data is eliminated, a human memory can at best fade over time. There are strategies to reduce bad memories such as focusing on positive experiences and activities to replace unwanted memories.

Removing a memory is often associated with a bad or hurtful experience in which the strategy to remove or suppress it before it affects your emotions and character in the long term can be a lengthy one.

An unwanted memory can provoke fear, anger or depression. It is important to not suppress emotions or fear, and try to understand the context and meaning of that memory and what you’ve learned from it.

Occupying oneself with new experiences can certainly overwhelm your negative memories and is a good strategy if the experiences are shared and have a lasting effect on yourself and others as well.

Although short term relief such as taking medication or listening to music for example can simulate positive experiences and provide alleviation, when the medication fades or the music stops playing the negative memories can return stronger and more frequent.

Long term relief can be attained through experiences such as a group exercises, such as being part of a team to build a new structure or pass a set of exams, or traveling together to an unfamiliar environment. Teamwork and cooperation will often bring you closer to those with similar stresses, anxieties and targets, sharing your own thoughts with others, alleviating much of your own worries and building lasting relationships in the process.

This forms a pillar of positive memory generation and over time one begins to understand people better, the struggles they face and ways and tips to provide good memories even when doing the worst of tasks.  

Similar experiences can be found when traveling, bringing a new baby into the family, regular meditation, and other new and impactful experiences.

How to Generate a Positive Memory

A positive memory has to be impactful and have wide implications including other memories from those around you for maximum impact. However, what if you don’t have the means to provide these positive memories?

Understanding your past experiences and picking the fruits of wisdom from that experience can bring harmony into your mindset, because memories from personal experience form the majority of decision making including planning, risk and behavior.

Picking the fruits of Wisdom

This means coming to terms with anything that can set you on a wrong or negative path such as trauma.

1. Validate your experiences and reaction

Look for positive aspects: Even in difficult memories, there might be lessons learned or growth experienced.

Forgive yourself and others: Holding onto resentment can prolong the pain.

Create new memories: Focus on positive experiences and activities to replace the unwanted memories.

2. Create distance:

Physically or emotionally distance yourself from situations or people that trigger the memory

3. Engage in distracting activities:

Focus on hobbies, interests, or activities that you enjoy to take your mind off the unwanted memory

4. Seek support from people you trust

You may feel the need to be alone after you experience a traumatic event. While it’s important to have your space, consider also having supportive people nearby to help you.

5. Listen to what your body wants

Self-care is absolutely vital after a traumatic experience. Your body can tell you what you need — whether it’s extra sleep, comfort food, or more time in nature.